1. Not situation in life should be a dead end.
We all want to make things work some times. We want to dig in and make the best of our sitatuiion. However, sometimes that situation can be changed. When i was in my hometown I thought it would be on the only place that I might ever call home. But, when you have so many downfalls and failures in one place, it can sometimes become the pit of your despair. Your job at this time is not to play the cards you were dealt, but to do everything in your power to change your cards….. Yes I stole that from Kanye.
2. Don’t try to force love. If it isn’t there it isn’t there.
Yes I think my situation has been well documented so I wont get into it.( Let’s save that one for a drunk night) Yes its painful and it hurts but if you’ve tried everything you could to get that person to feel the same way about you the best thing to do is to pack up and call it a day. Dragging things out will not make things easier. In fact, it will make things extremely difficult. I know this is much easier to say then to do, but I beg you look for the signs and don’t leave your heart out their on a line hoping they’ll one day bite.
3. Women who want to get married at hello are bad news.
This is the conundrum that men find themselves in constantly. We love fast women but we don’t take them seriously. We are impatient with slow women, but we end up wanting them the most. Now of course their are two kinds of fast women, women who are quick to jump in bed with you and women who are quick to say they love you. NEITHER ARE GOOD FOR YOU. Trust me I’ve had my share of both and they seem to belong in the mental hospital more then they belong in your company. Women who want to get married at hello tend to want to love to hard. They over compensate because of past experiences, they fight you viscously at every turn, and then want to make up only to repeat the same steps the next day. They tend to be beautiful and sweet at first. But then the “beast” comes out in them. If you cant wait I can understand… But if you can please avoid those women.
4. Lying and cheating does find its way back to you
Now for all of the wining and crying I’ve done about how I was so loving to all my women, Im going to be honest with you. I’ve never been anywhere close to being a saint. I can say that their have been very few times where I cheated. But lots of times where I came close or toted the line. However innocent you think a text here or a little kiss there may be it usually comes back tenfold. Im not trying to be fire and brimstone but it does. You mess around and you’ll be left holding on to what was instead of what is.
5. Idolize no one. Heroes are for children.
Yes it may seem harsh, but idolizing people always ends up with hard feelings. The truth is these people are human just like we are. But we see them performing what we deem to be superhero feats and we forget that they are flesh and blood just like us. Its happened to me twice in my life, once with my father(to long to get into) and to a much lesser extent with Michael Jordan. I’ll explain the Jordan example. Most of us loved MJ growing up, one of the best players ever if not the best. He could seem to do nothing wrong for so long during his career. Even a book that exposed some of his badder habits(“Jordan Rules”) couldn’t deter his fans. However, today a bitter older and more documented Jordan has come off as a complete asshole. Nothing like the man we all thought he was.
6. Never let anyone dictate who you are friends with or what you believe in.
This one is pretty much self explanatory. Just because someone else is homophobic or a bigot doesn’t mean that you have to be one. You aren’t who you hang with. You are you.
7. No matter how bad you want to call your ex, don’t do it!
We’ve all been here right? We all think we may be adult enough to let the past be the past. We all think that we can just be reasonable human beings and accept the fact that whats over is over. But the rough truth is most of us cant. Calling that ex is like pulling off a bandage on a wound that isn’t healed yet. Take your time, take all the time you need. But please don’t rush back to your ex and revisit things with these romanticized notions. There was a reason you and her broke up…
8. Friends come and go. Its life
In high school, we all usually belong to that clique or group of friends that we think will never end. But college comes and poof that usually goes out of the window. We all have different wants and needs. We fall out with each other because we cant accept those changes. Very few of us remain the same.Don’t stress over it, a new crop usually comes sooner than later.
9. If you have a good family and a good relationship with God you are never alone.
We all have those moments where we feel like nobody understands us and our problems. We close ourselves off to our friends and family thinking that they can’t relate. We feel alone. But truthfully we’re not. Its at the time when you’re lowest when you should return to your roots. Yes we don’t all have great home lives. But we usually have one person that we trust to confide our problems in. If all of that fails, there is always the Man upstairs. I’m not a fan in confiding in a priests or minister. But God always listens and has the best solutions. He may not answer right away but he always answers.
10.Nice is great but it wont get you respect
Nice guys finish last right? Right. Theres nothing wrong with being kind. In fact it makes life really feel worthwhile sometimes. But unfortunately people see that as weakness. They see smiles and bending over backwards as an opportunity to get over on you. I’m not saying don’t be nice. Im just saying don’t ever be a doormat. Stand up for yourself every opportunity you get.